The art of a relationship

After spending some time researching about how l am going to propose her, l finally came up with a weird plan. l created a date which was not on a calendar, stupid loving scene, background music perfect & she was not expecting it. What happened next, you don’t want to know because this is just the beginning & the story goes on...

Why do relationship fail?

1. Focusing on taking

People get into relationship with a motive of what they can receive instead of what they can give & contribute. The majority of relationship l had were genuinely awesome each person was focusing on contributing although l had few ones where ladies were focusing on milking me which will never happen again since l am now able to spot a taker. I strongly believe if you want to improve your dating life it is essential to write down 10 things you are willing to contribute in a relationship before you get into it.

2. Entering relationship for wrong reason

The truth is that human love relationship fails because they are entered for the wrong reasons. Lot of ladies especially South Africans [Not all of them] get into relationship because they are broke & they are looking for a cow to milk. Other people get into relationship because of loneliness, depression, serve the ego, recover from previous relationship, boredom, sexual needs etc. Get into relationship for right reasons otherwise you will spend the rest of your life looking for a right person whilst he/she is there but you have wrong motives.

3.  High Expectations

Last Friday night l was speaking with one of my associate & she told me more than 10 things she expect from her boyfriend which paint a picture about why lot of people are not satisfied, unhappy & living in a quiet desperation. High expectations lead to disappointment & secret frustrations. l am not afraid to say l am the happiest guy on earth & the most peaceful man because l expect nothing at all in life. Cancel all expectations you have in order for a relationship to work out & focus on what you can contribute in a relationship.

4. Insecurities

When l was a teenager l used to be insecure in relationships & l think it’s was caused by wrong friends l was hanging around with because they would ended up trying to flirt or hit on my girl. As l grew mentally the insecurities faded away. Worrying about what another person is doing, saying, thinking, expecting & planning always leads to insecurities which result in a failure of relationship. Nowadays l am self-centered in relationships & focusing on loving & encouraging mutual benefits.

ln conclusion, don’t seek love of yourself through loving others because you will live life in disappointment & frustrations. Honor, cherish& love yourself so that you can love, honor & trust someone you are in a relationship with.

Where ever you are & whatever you are trying to do in your life just know that GZ Worldchanger supports your dream. Feel free to like or share or comment with your opinion & l will join you in the discussion.